Checking Out and How To Be Aware
Checking Out and How To Be Aware
What is grabbing your attention and keeping you from being present in your life? Are you ready to take control again? Ready to be aware of what's going on around you? Then it's time to let go of your current habits and replace them with better ones.
Happy August! Can you believe it? Summer will be coming to a close soon! Most of us have kiddos back in school, the trees have already started to change in Georgia, and more than half the year is already in the books. Where did the first half of 2021 go?
I have been aware these last 6 months that people have found themselves lost in their phones, lost in the politics, lost in fear, lost in overwhelm, lost in food, lost in alcohol and lost in their minds. People tend to “check out” on their emotions and their problems through many things, because it’s much easier than dealing with their reality.
What’s yours? Have you found yourself scrolling a lot lately? Reading the next “BREAKING NEWS” article? Grabbing your 3rd or 4th cookie or alcoholic drink? Maybe day dreaming A LOT about your future or stuck in the past?
Stop the Scroll
Me personally, I found myself scrolling through social media, which creates anxiety, that then turns to overwhelm, which makes me want to eat more, that then makes me feel guilty and lazy. Ultimately, the laziness turns into binge watching Netflix. Let’s be honest, Netflix has gotten us all in trouble over the last 18 months. Then finally, I snap out of it 20 pounds heavier, not moving forward in any of my goals, and questioning myself of why did I let this happen…
Well, it’s because I “checked out”. I let social media take over my here and now. I let that cookie comfort me a little too much or that glass of wine. I checked out and got a little too comfy there.
" We are all in control of our choices and what we allow in our lives."
Sometimes, we just check out because it’s easier than dealing with the problem at hand. We first have to realize or be aware that we have a problem and be ready to make a change.
Identify Your Triggers
Then we have to ask ourselves what we are “checking out” from? This is how you identify your trigger. What triggers you to grab an extra drink, extra cookie, to scroll, etc. It could be stress, it could be from a person, it could be to allow your mind to “decompress” or maybe you are avoiding something you know you should be doing. For instance, work, having that important conversation, playing with your kids, or washing the dishes.
Once you figure out your trigger and your comfort, it’s time to figure out a healthy replacement. Instead of an extra cookie, you could ask, “Do I need this cookie? Am I hungry? If so, is there something that could be healthier or more filling?” Most of the time it isn’t because you are hungry. It’s because it’s a habit and/or you were triggered.
Maybe, instead of Netflix; you could go on a walk and invite a spouse or friend, you can finally take that hot bath, read that book, pray or mediate, or just do something new. Instead of scrolling on social media, you can set a timer for how long you can be on social media for the day. Did you know most phones have an app timer? Yes! You can set a certain amount of time allowed on each app. It’s amazing!
Like I said previously, sometimes it’s much easier to check out and not do the things we know we should. However, there is a sense of accomplishment when we break our cycles and most of the time it reenergizes and refocuses us. When we are more focused on the right activities, we find more time in the day to do the things we love, or be with the people we love. We also find ourselves less stressed, less overwhelmed and more on track to a healthier and better lifestyle.
Make the Change
Now if you are asking yourself the questions above and ready to make the changes needed but find yourself very overwhelmed with the thought of change, that’s OK.
Some people feel this way when change comes, because of the fear of the unknown. Psychologically, our brains are trying to keep us safe. When we try and break a habit that our brains already know is “safe”, even if the habit is not a healthy habit, our brains process this scenario as we are still alive, so this is safe. Our brains crave routine, because routine is safe.
So, we just need to reprogram our brains to know that other routines can be safe as well and can actually be better for us. The way that we do this is accountability. Someone holds us to our higher vision of ourselves. Asking us tough questions that will help us see that fear is just an illusion. Fear is standing in your way to achieving what you want in this life. So, if you find yourself wanting help breaking these cycles, I am here to help. Let’s not spend the rest of 2021 stuck where we were in 2020. A new year is quickly approaching, so if we can get a jump on it now…watch out 2022!
I promise you will surely have a breakthrough!