The True Meaning of Introvert and Extrovert
The True Meaning of Introvert and Extrovert
My entire life I have believed I was an extrovert. I was told an extrovert is outgoing, not afraid to meet new people, chatty, etc. However, it was just recently I realized that I am truly an introvert or am I? Now, people who know me and don’t know the true meaning of extrovert are probably laughing and wondering what the heck I am drinking… but hear me out!
Where do you get your energy? Do you get energy from being around people? If so, then you are an extrovert. Or do you get energy from being alone? If so, then you are an introvert.
Now if you googled extrovert… which I’m sure you did. Google will tell you an extrovert is an outgoing, overtly expressive person. And an introvert is a shy, reticent person. Yes, those are all tendencies of introverts and extroverts, but do those things energize you? An introvert is not always shy and an extrovert is not always outgoing and chatty.
I love hosting parties and I love meeting new people. However, after hosting or being social, I like to retreat to a quiet place. Whether that is a two-hour bath or up in the mountains disconnecting from the world, I am energized by being alone. But not for a long period of time. Noticing this, I wondered what if I was somewhere in the middle, because I do love being around people and I do love being alone, but doing it for a long period of time I either feel overwhelmed or depressed.
Digging deeper, I found that I am actually an ambivert,
a person whose personality has a balance of extrovert and introvert features. This means that ambiverts lean into both introvert and extrovert tendencies. Love being social, can express feelings, love meeting new people, being optimistic…all extrovert tendencies. A great listener, can visualize solutions, and enjoy spending time alone…all introverted tendencies. If you have a combination of both, welcome to the club, you are an ambivert!
I think it is fun to know more about your personality traits. However, it is easy to get caught up in them. Personality tests and labels are not who you are. You are so much more than a number, color, or trait.
However, they do help make you aware of some tendencies you may have. So with that being said, I want to offer some tips for family dynamics, work space, business space, and personal space, based on your, vertness… is that a word? I'm just going to roll with it.
When working in a group, it is helpful to recognize that you may have a mixture of introverts and extroverts. Come together as a group and discuss, brainstorm, and plan. But allow the flexibility to execute the plan in a group setting or individual setting.
Also, notice your introverts may need more time to process all the information before making a quick decision. Allow time, say 1 or 24hours, to give them time to process and voice their opinions.
This not only works for business, but at home as well. You may need to give your spouse, child or friend time to process the information you gave them to come to a proper decision and make them feel like their voice is heard.
Find Your Space
Introverts find a quiet, cozy corner of your home or in the office that you gravitate to. Also, if you work from home and the kids are driving you crazy, go to the library…without your kids. Or maybe rent a shared office space a couple times a week. If you are a stay at home mama looking for a quiet place to retreat to, the library works for you too! Sometimes they even have story time where you can drop the kiddos off and you can go read at another table….#momwin! You can also schedule time to soak in the tub, or go to a quiet park and sit on the grass. Have a momma picnic alone...another #momwin
Now extroverts, you love the energy and the people! Go work a day or two at a busy local coffee shop. The energy in a coffee shop is buzzing! Maybe it’s all the caffeine, but it's a great place to work or meet someone new. You can also go to a local networking event. Stay at home extroverted mamas, there is always a mama event going on and if not, you are the perfect woman to start one! Hop on Facebook and create a mama’s night out. I’ll bet my last dollar it will be bigger than you think! Mamas are looking for their tribe, so why not be the one who created the meetup that can change a mama's life?
OK sweet Ambiverts, these tips work for you too. The tough part is listening to what you really need based on what is going on in your life and your mood. You may have a day or two when you are extroverted, then before you know it, introverted. It could be based on seasons too, where it's months before you are introverted again.
Listen to yourself and take care of yourself properly. If you tend to go too much against what you need you find yourself exhausted and overwhelmed very quickly.
Are you an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert? I would love to know! Comment below.